I find it marvellous to see elderly couples married for a lifetime, intensely in love with each other. It’s amazing when two become one, until death. Sadly many marriages end up in divorce. It’s not surprising that people describe divorce as death, because what was meant to be separated only in death is forcefully separated in divorce.

Sacrificial loveMarriage is a covenant binding relationship which is irreversible, but people treat it more like a contract, which can be broken. Many marriages begin with great promises and hope, but end up in heartbreak and regrets. The relationship that was supposed to be a bliss in a person’s life is exactly what’s making their life miserable.

If you want your marriage to last a lifetime, what would you do differently from people that are divorced? It’s sacrificial love. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends (John 15: 12-13 NIV).

When it comes to love, people are mostly focused on themselves, how they want to be loved, but true love is sacrificial. Love is about giving. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13: 4-8a NIV).

People are afraid of sacrificial love. After all, it sounds so painful, but here’s the thing, you cannot have something you are not willing to give. Most people don’t know love because they have never truly loved. Love is such an awesome thing that the more you give, the more you have. You can never run out of it. Learn to love selflessly and reap a harvest that will flood your life with love. Focus on loving your spouse sacrificially every day in every way, until the day you die.