Do you know of anyone that has never faced any form of rejection? We all know what it is like to be rejected. Some get offended at the slightest rejection, whereas others shake it off like a duck shaking off the water from its back. We react differently and all of us have a story to tell. According to my opinion, it is irrelevant how people get rejected, what phase of life they get rejected and who rejects them. The relevant part is to deal with rejections and overcome it as quickly as possible.

I don’t mean to be rude when I tell you that your story is irrelevant. Rejection is an offense that starts at the emotional level and ends up at the spiritual level. If you are obsessed with your rejection story, you are only holding on to that pain. That’s why I don’t want you to pay attention to your story, by memorizing it, going over and over in your mind on how it happened, what they did or said and how you reacted; feeling the pain deeper every time you think about it. Rejection is an emotional and spiritual crutch. If you hold onto it, you will only remain handicapped forever and being handicapped means you won’t be able to live the abundant life God has promised you.

Therefore please throw away the crutches and pain by ignoring your rejection story. Now let’s talk about the important thing, and that is to deal with the pain of rejection. First of all, take it to the Lord in prayer. Let him know that it hurts and ask him to help you deal with it. Sometimes prayers are answered instantaneously and there’s a miracle. You are transformed at a fraction of a second. But mostly it takes time and that’s because God wants to work in partnership with us. He wants us to do our part. Rejection is an offence and God wants us to forgive our offenders.

rejectionWe won’t progress any further in our healing and deliverance, if we refuse to forgive and seek revenge. Jesus was rejected more than any of us will ever be rejected. Yet while hanging on that cross in His agony, while He was dying, He cried out to His Father saying, “Father, forgive them, they don’t know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34a). Jesus had compassion and empathy for His offenders. The truth is, hurting people hurt others and rejected people reject others. Therefore when someone offends you, that’s because they are hurt and rejected themselves. Since you are hurt and rejected, you too have the potential to hurt others. Best to deal with your rejections and be a loving person that loves others.

Find your worth in God alone and not by how people treat you. If we place our worth and value on the opinion of others, then we are placing ourselves for rejections all the time. People did not create us; people did not die to save us. People are not our God. We don’t find our identity in people but only in Jesus Christ. Many people’s lives are devastated and they live in bondage all their lives because they have been rejected by others.

Their lives are opinionated by others. They strive on people’s approval of them, instead of pleasing God. People don’t think about you all the time only God does. When Jesus was rejected, He did not strive to make people appreciate him. He was not worried about His reputation. He did not feel worthless. He did not sit down and cry and wallow in self-pity. He prayed, He forgave, He was compassionate, He loved, He moved on from people who rejected Him to people who accepted what He had to offer. His focus was not His reputation but the will of His Father. He found His identity in His Father and never ever in people.

To be delivered from rejection and never be rejected again we have to have the attitude of Christ. Renew our minds with God’s word. Seek Him and know His will for our lives. Find our purpose in Him alone. For ‘in him we live and move and have our being.’ As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’ (Acts 17:28). We are his children. We find our identity from our heavenly Father. He loves us and He alone saves us. We are precious to him; we are his masterpiece. He will never forsake us, leave us or reject us.

When our time on earth is over, we will go home to be with the Lord. It is the Lord our God who sits on the throne and judges our every deed. It is His opinion about us that matters. What He thinks about us is the only thing that is important now and will be important for all eternity. However we do have to respect other people. Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves (Philippians 2:3). God wants us to esteem others higher than ourselves, but we are not to find our worth in peoples opinions of us. Therefore let’s get rid of all unworthiness, rejections, negative opinions and priorities and only focus on God and His will. To love God, to love ourselves and to love others.

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